Free checklist: your first 30 days in Family Court

A two-page checklist for fathers whose case is starting. It is free to download and does not need an email address.

Download the checklist (PDF, 2 pages)

What it covers

• What to record from day one, and how to keep it organised
• What to do if contact has stopped, and when court papers arrive
• The Cafcass safeguarding call and the safeguarding letter
• Writing messages and emails that will be read later
• Allegations, and the difference between a claim and a finding
• What not to do with court papers and recordings
• The first hearing, and the questions to take to your solicitor

How it is written

Each point of procedure is marked with the practice direction, rule or guidance it comes from, and the sources are listed on the second page. Points of practical advice are marked as coming from the book. Procedure changes, so the checklist carries the date its sources were last checked: 20 September 2026.

The checklist follows the standard process in England and Wales, the Child Arrangements Programme. Some court areas use a different process, the Child Focused Model, so check the notice of hearing you receive and whether your court is one of them.

The checklist gives general information. It is not legal advice and cannot be applied to a particular case without taking advice. Full disclaimer